In March of 2017, I was pretty heavily attacked online by a very mentally disturbed Domme here in Philadelphia. She spent a disturbing amount of time making up stories about me being a man, having a penis, spreading "anal herpes", being a drunk, drug addict, a thief (sometimes spelled "theif"), and whatever else she thought would scare people. She posted this National-Inquirer-esque story as a "session review", not on any legitimate BDSM forums that people in our community actually use, but on a multitude of unregulated, gossip-style websites well-known as havens for defamation. She has done the same to several other Dommes in and outside of Philadelphia. Sometimes just recycling the same story but swapping in a different name. It's pretty comical how transparent it is.


So, how do you know who it is?  How does any detective figure anything out? Following the leads. She's a pretty sloppy criminal and left several clues I easily strung together. After I came to my conclusion and shared it with the other Dommes in the city, I learned she has a reputation as being unstable with a long history of conniving and abusive behavior. I know you want to know who I'm talking about, but, unfortunately, I can't name names here for both legal reasons and because her reaction to being called out is to viciously retaliate with more harassment, defamation, and threats. I have no time or interest in dealing with such nonsense. You will have to take my word that I, and other Philly Dommes, know exactly who it is and have for some time. When appropriate, clients have been notified privately.

In what was not her first run in with the law, she once again "Fucked Around and Found Out" and was finally taken to court for defamation, where she lost to a staggering sum. So staggering an article was written about the case, which you can find online. This forced her to shutter her site, abandon or delete her social media accounts, take down her ads, and "disappear" for a little while. Despite this, she has not stopped.

But, Mistress, Is any of this true?  Of course not. No intelligent person believes any of the things she wrote about me. If you meet and session with me, you'll see why. There's no way that I could be in the this scene for 15 years and have the reputation I do if it were. I'm a talented and highly ethical Dominant, and I treat my craft and my clients with the utmost respect and care. Seeing my successes is triggering when she feels like such a failure. So, she's tried (in vain) to ruin them by stoking people's fears. In truth, I believe the details of her stories tell us something about her. I think she's subconsciously telling on herself. I and other Dommes are not a "psycho", "cunt", drunk, and thief, she is. (Ask people who have known her.) It's classic "psychological projection".

Why haven't you had these sites take down this defamation?  A few reasons: It keeps records of her activity. Every thing she does is logged, somewhere. This is very good for me and very bad for her. She found this out when data-behemoth Google was subpoenaed during the discovery process of her defamation suit. (The subpoena is public record.) They likely turned over everything they had on her: her accounts, her email, her web searches, etc. Another reason is because in some cases I can't. Some of these websites intentionally make the content posted impossible to remove. The people who use them bank on this in their attempt to ruin people's lives.

Why don't you try to reason with her?  Because it almost assuredly will be futile. Her illness means she lacks the capacity for empathy and remorse, and she seems to find satisfaction in hurting others, which is why you will see her pop up periodically, pretending to be a sub, client or stalker, to try again and again with the same story. You know it's her because she is literally the only one who follows us around online and harasses us with the same tabloid tale about us being a "thief", "whore", or "cunt", repeating her line of "the things written about you", which is a painfully obvious attempt to get ego satisfaction by bringing attention to all the phony stories she's written under various fake names. She feels powerless and this is how she tries to feel powerful. It's a very unfortunate situation that is best quietly reported and then ignored. Eventually, she will get a comeuppance she will not be able to run away from.

​If you'd like even more detail about this, I wrote a blog entry shortly after it happened. You can find it here. It includes testimony from friends and clients.

Thank you for reading.

Mistress Tissa