(AND ARE ENABLED BY BOTTOM-FEEDERS)
UPDATE FEBRUARY 2023 (backstory is below)
One of my subs informed me that there was a newer post added to a website purporting to be for "frauds" that used this same "Mistress Tissa is a man with a penis spreading STDs, drunk, thief, etc" story obviously written by the same former Philly "Domme" who, apparently, just can't quit me.
After contacting the owner of this site, with a request under the Digital Millennium Copyright Act (DMCA) to remove my stolen photo accompanying the post, I received a response in which he provided his legal name: Scott Breitenstein. This was VERY helpful, not only because it told me what I was unable to see because he'd paid for privacy protection for his domain, but because he also decided to include several more of his sites that feature my stolen work.
In other words: he just ratted himself out as the owner of all of these sites and potentially saved me time and money were I to file a lawsuit against him.
Of course I did some research on him. He's 52 years old, lives in Dayton, Ohio, and is very well known as a bottom-feeder, once called "the worst man on the internet". He runs a series of sites in which defamation runs rampant -- and is ostensibly encouraged. He used to have lots of revenge porn on his sites, almost all of it featuring private images and videos of women, but it looks like he's removed much of it. (He wouldn't ever be able to cover the settlements if he were sued.)
There's an interview with him here. It's worth checking out if only as a case study of malice, hypocrisy, delusion and how badly we need better internet regulations around people like him. Hard to believe that a guy who comes across as someone with an IQ of about 70 can get away with this kind of enterprise. Hard to believe that someone who does this for a living actually believes he's a good guy and a "Christian" as he low-key brags about capitalizing off the harm and ruin of others, reporting somewhere between 500 - 1200 USD per month. Sadly, he's not alone, as discussed in this New York Times article "The Slander Industry" (also here), written by Aaron Krolik and Kashmir Hill. This is what our "Information Superhighway" has come to, I guess.
Thinking about why someone with do this, as the psychologist in me would naturally do, I had a hunch he has a particular type of "criminal" personality, like the "Domme" responsible for the posts, quite possibly brought on by early trauma. So, I searched public court records for him. Would you be surprised he has a long list of charges, including assault (physical harm), violating a restraining order, aggravated menacing, harassment, theft, and several vehicular incidents? And it looks like he's passing his emotional troubles onto his son. In fact, it appears this is an issue for his whole family as there are dockets for several Breitensteins. So, I may be right in that he came from a trauma background. (The "Domme" also has past charges. You can even find her mugshot online.)
The sad thing is that these people have absolutely nothing going on for them -- and they know it. So, someone like Scott finds their "purpose" in creating blank canvasses for people, like a mentally-disturbed and failed Dominatrix, to quickly type out an imaginary story that will then get copied to site after site with absolutely no regard for how its target may suffer. It's an irresistible invitation for a self-loathing person to try to bring a person that triggers feelings of failure or inferiority down to their level so they can feel better about being on that level. This is how they attempt to turn their feelings of being powerless into feelings of being powerful.
Unbelievably, the laws tend to protect people like them more than people like me. If I wanted to get it taken down I'd either have to rely on the integrity of the person running the site to honor my request (the joke here is that they don't have any or they wouldn't run sites like this) or I have to take the Domme who wrote it to court, prove she made it up ("Your Honor, I present to you exhibit A: My Vagina"), and then get a court order for its removal. For those that don't know, defamation lawsuits easily go into the five figures. The means I can expect to spend at least $10,000 to do this. This is not how I would want to spend that kind of money were I to have it just lying around. So, here we are.
Instead, I've chosen to confront and make an example out of it. To bring attention to it and discuss what it is: a collection of lies to stir up and exploit the fears of those who go looking for information about me. I've also used it as a warning about carefully selecting the Domme with whom you choose to session (and work), as the woman who wrote this once held sessions (and collaborated) with some of you. Now, I'm adding another piece to this conversation by including the kind of people, like Scott Breitenstein, who create these platforms and actually make a living off this.
So, just to reiterate: I'm not a man with a penis. (I've been with a lot of them, though, and I'm sure some of them could verify that not only do I have a pussy, it's a pretty nice one.) I have never spread any sexually transmitted infections. (Because I clean the shit out of everything.) I'm not a drunk, drug addict, or thief. (All totally below my vibrational level.) And I certainly don't ruin lives. (Ask these people.) There's no way I could be a respected member of the Philly BDSM scene since 2007 and a consistently top-rated pro since 2015 if any of this were true. Spank you very much and good night.
In March of 2017, I was pretty heavily attacked online by a mentally disturbed Domme here in Philadelphia. She spent an obviously remarkable amount of time making up tabloid-esque stories about me being a man, having a penis, spreading "anal herpes", being a drunk, drug addict, a thief (sometimes spelled "theif"), and whatever else she thought would scare people. She then posted these things as "session reviews", not on any legitimate BDSM forums that people in our community actually use, but on a multitude of unregulated, gossip-style sites well-known as havens for defamation. She has done the same to several other Dommes in and outside of Philadelphia. Sometimes just recycling the same story but swapping in a different name. It's comical how transparent it is.
So, how do you know who it is? How does any detective figure anything out? Following the leads. She's a pretty sloppy criminal and left several clues I easily strung together. After I came to my conclusion I shared it with the other Dommes in the city who confirmed I was correct. They told me she has a reputation as being unstable with a long history of conniving and abusive behavior. I know you want to know who I'm talking about, but, unfortunately, I don't want to reveal that here both for legal reasons and because her reaction to being called out is to viciously retaliate with more harassment, defamation, and threats. I have no time or interest in dealing with such nonsense. You will have to take my word that I, and other Philly Dommes, know exactly who it is and have for some time. When appropriate, clients have been notified privately.
In what was not her first run in with the law, she once again "Fucked Around and Found Out" and was finally taken to court for defamation, where she lost to a staggering sum. So staggering an article was written about the case, which you can find online. This forced her to shutter her site, abandon or delete her social media accounts, take down her ads, and "disappear" for a little while. Despite this, she comes back and tries again (see below).
Mistress, Is any of what she said about you true? Not a single word. I don't have a penis (sorry to disappoint you penis fetishists out there), I don't have "anal herpes" (I think she means genital herpes, but, hey, she's making stuff up so you can't expect accuracy), I'm not a drunk or drug addict (and never have been), I don't steal (I don't need to rob people and I respect myself too much to ever consider it), and I sure as hell don't ruin lives (ask all my subs). I've been involved in the BDSM scene for over 15 years and have a reputation as a top-notch professional. This is because I'm an intelligent, emotionally mature, and ethical person, and I treat my craft and my clients with great respect and care. There is absolutely no way I could do or be any of those things she wrote about me and still be around.
Why do you think she's targeting you? Given we don't know each other, and I haven't done or said anything to her, the most logical explanation is envy. I think her perceptions of my success is probably triggering her feelings of failure. So, she's tried (in vain) to sabotage me by stoking people's fears that I'm a bad person. What I think is happening is what's called "psychological projection". Everything she writes is her subconsciously telling on herself. I and other Dommes are not a "psycho", "cunt", drunk, and thief, she is. (Apparently, there's truth to this, confirmed by people who have known her.)
Why haven't you had these sites take down this defamation? A few reasons: It keeps records of her activity. Every thing she does and the trail of how she got there is logged, somewhere. This is very good for me and very bad for her. She found this out when data-behemoth Google was subpoenaed during the discovery process of her defamation suit. (The subpoena is public record.) They likely turned over everything they had on her: her accounts, her email, her web searches, etc. Another reason is because in some cases I can't. Some of these websites intentionally make the content posted impossible to remove, even going so far as to set up sites that claim to be the solution to the problem they themselves have created. The people who use them bank on this in their attempt to ruin people's lives.
Why don't you try to reason with her? Because it almost assuredly will be futile. Her illness means she lacks the capacity for empathy and remorse, and she seems to find satisfaction in hurting others, which is why you will see her pop up periodically, pretending to be a sub, client or stalker, to try again and again with the same story. You know it's her because she is literally the only one who follows us around online and harasses us with the same tabloid tale about us being a "thief", "whore", or "cunt", repeating her line of "the things written about you", which is a painfully obvious attempt to get ego satisfaction by bringing attention to all the phony stories she's written under various fake names. It's a very unfortunate situation that is best quietly reported and then ignored. Eventually, she will get a comeuppance she will not be able to run away from.
If you'd like even more detail about this, I wrote a blog entry shortly after it happened. You can find it here. It includes testimony from friends and clients.
Thank you for reading.