FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS

First of all, if someone approaches you saying they're a Domme always STOP and Google the name. Do you see a website for this person? People who say their "website" is their Twitter, FetLife, or similarly free account should be treated with suspicion because anyone can make one in like 5 minutes and call themselves a Domme. It's a very easy way to scam people. The person you're exchanging messages with may be a complete imposter. They may know nothing about BDSM, may not be located where they claim to be, or may not even be a woman. It may be some guy in India who stole some photos from someone's social media account and some text from a pro Domme's website, added it to the FetLife profile he opened an hour ago, and is calling himself "Mistress Amy" in San Diego. (This isn't hyperbole. This exact thing happens.)

If you search and find a website look for how she tells you to contact her. Most Dommes will say you need to call, email, or submit a form on her website. If you did not initiate contact her yourself then be skeptical. Most professional Domme do not randomly contact people and ask for money. (Self-identified FinDommes are an entirely different class and should ALWAYS be treated with caution.)

If someone is saying they're me...

1. Check this list to verify if I'm on the site you're being contacted through and the name of my account. If it's not in my list then it is not me.

2. If someone is asking you for money, such as for a phone call or deposit for a session, the only time I will do this is if you contact me through my website. If you have not initiated contact with me through my site then I will not ask you for any money. Not on social media, not on a forum, not through the phone, not in a text, nowhere but my own website.

You can read more here.

Not at all! I'm very adept at helping and playing with people who have little to no experience with BDSM and I welcome them. I have had several people who have never done anything in kinky in their lives come to me for their first time. One of my areas of expertise is in helping inexperienced people figure out what they really want and enjoy.

Let me give you your first lesson in FemDom culture: Always address a Domme respectfully. I prefer "Mistress" or "Ms. Tissa".

Folx, I honestly couldn't give two shits about how old you are. I just need you to be 21 for legal reasons, but beyond that? 24, 54, 84, it doesn't matter. The real concern is if you are in the appropriate mental and physical health for the type of scene you're requesting, and then if you can follow my protocol like a respectful adult.

And, please, stop lying about your age. It is completely, totally, and wholly unnecessary. When you say you're 64 and you're really 84 it doesn't make me more likely to accept you for a session, it makes me wonder what else you're lying about. Plus, I can tell the difference between someone who is 64 and someone who is 84.

All legal ages are welcome! Age has nothing to do with how hot a scene can be!

This is going to require some thinking on your part. One way to get some ideas flowing is to look at my Interests page. Peruse the different things I have listed there. Which interest you as well (and which don't)? Choose the ones that you're most attracted to and put those in your application. For the things with which you're unfamiliar use a search engine and do some research. Do this before you send a request for a scene. If you submit the form on my contact page and say something like, "I just wanna serve you," I will interpret that to mean you're probably not serious and not reply to you.

If you've done your research and are still not sure, you have a couple of options:

1. If you haven't decided if you're ready for a session but would like to talk about it, I offer paid coaching sessions where we discuss your feelings and desires to help you figure out what makes sense for you. I'm especially good at this because not only am I an experienced Dominatrix, but I've also had training to be a psychotherapist and have been a counselor.

2. If you're absolutely sure you want a session but can't make up your mind about what you want in it, I highly recommend you schedule an Exploratory session. This type of session is crafted to introduce you to various type of activities based on a conversation I have with you. This is often very illuminating for inexperienced people as it deepens their insight about themselves and what direction they want to go.

PLEASE NOTE: If you aren't adequately prepared before we speak be aware that I may suspend the consultation and ask you to do some more thinking before we continue. A rescheduled call may require additional tribute.

It's not necessarily about specific activites, but more about our dynamic. I really enjoy scenes with people who are open-minded and willing to try new things. I'm most energized by those who allow themselves to be vulnerable. I love when you show up ready to surrender to me and lose yourself in the experience. This is when I come alive and my creativity can run free.

DO NOT ask to incorporate my hard limits into a scene. Also take note of my soft limits and ask about them appropriately.

Though I am a sensual sadist, I do not enjoy scenes which are only sensual. If you are not looking for any level of discomfort -- physical or emotional -- then I will not likely be interested in the scene. I'm here to be your Dominatrix not your sensual service top.

Beyond that? It's really about the person I'm playing with. I tend to not work well with stoic types. Though I appreciate when people offer their bodies and minds for my enjoyment, If someone is not willing to open up emotionally during a session, I will have difficulty connecting with them and will likely not enjoy what I'm doing. I love you emotive types!

If you’re interested in a real-time BDSM session or online training, please go to my Contact page and follow the instructions. If you're interested in coaching, please fill out the form on the Coaching page. I will review it and if I think we're a potential match, I will contact you by email to schedule a session consultation or coaching call, both of which are by phone. During our talk, we will review and discuss the information you sent to me, including any questions or concerns you may have. For BDSM sessions, we will figure out a time that works for both of us. If during our talk I do not think we're a good match or that I can't help you as a coach, please don't be hurt. I would rather be honest with you than take your money and not feel good about the session.

It's not. It just seems that way if you expect your BDSM to feel like a drive-through window at a fast food joint rather than something like making a reservation at a 5-star restaurant. I don't offer Happy Meals, I offer gourmet experiences to savor.

Please understand I'm not an entry-level House Domme working shifts or someone who does this on the side to make a little cash. I'm a truly professional erotic artist and legitimately kinky, Dominant woman who is serious about my craft. I'm on a completely different level and my practice reflects that.

The fact of the matter is that Dominatrices who are very good are usually aware of their value. As a result, our processes may be a little different than what you're used to. This may include additional protocol, such as paying for a consultation or paying a larger deposit. We do this because we know we're worth it.

Another issue is that we are often faced with a lot of bullshitters. Dealing with these types gets very tiresome after several years. Because I no longer wish to allocate any resources to game-players and abusers I've chosen to curate a practice that filters out these types of people and filters in those whose self-respect matches my own.

This means I need you to show me you aren't playing a game. I do this by asking you to send a gift card, in an amount of your choosing, to be granted access the form to request a session. People who aren't actually interested in a session won't send me any gift, but a sincere submissive, slave, or fetishist will do so gladly.

If you ask for a scene that reflects what I offer (which is not difficult to do if you look at my interests and limits page) I'll ask you to send tribute to talk about it. This shows me that you're serious about making this scene a reality. To show you that I am, too, I allow you to use your "gift" toward the cost of the call.

If after we speak we agree to have a session together I will ask for a 50% deposit. This is to ensure that you plan to show up like I do. Small deposits don't reflect the value of what I put into my work were you to decide to bail.

Once you pass these simple and very reasonable "tests" I know you're the kind of person I'm looking for.

After your first session with me subsequent sessions are very easy: just check my schedule, email your request, wait for me to confirm, and then show up. I don't require a consultation about every session; only if I haven't seen you in a while or if you're asking for something very different than your usual interests. And I don't require another deposit unless you're asking for something that will require special planning.

Bottom line is if you don't want to invest a little money up front to show me you're sincere then come back when you are.

I respond to applications as soon as I can, usually somewhere between same-day and 48 hours. If I'm traveling (check my Schedule page), it may take longer. I try to email and make calls when I'm away, but please do not expect it if I'm on vacation. If I have not replied within 4 days, there may be a problem. Please try again. When I do reply, expect the next step to be to set up a phone consultation to discuss the session. Please be aware this is mandatory and is for both our benefit. I usually conduct consults between 3pm - Midnight EST.

All sessions, by law, must involve the consent of all participants. This means as fun as that surprise fantasy is, I cannot arrange it until I have theirs. The way I do that is by having a conversation with them, on the phone. This means I cannot take an email with a blanket "yes". The closest I can get for a first session is to get their consent, by phone, where they agree to allow me to choose the activities, within limits and reason.

Please keep in mind that all new clients must be vetted and only those who have been vetted will be given the location for the session. This means well-meaning partners and friends will not be able to get my address and then have some Lyft driver surprise-drive them here -- as hot of an idea as that is!

For my safety, I don't disclose my location until someone is fully vetted and has completed the confirmation process.

However, I will tell you that I'm in Philadelphia proper, not the suburbs or across the river in New Jersey. I'm in a safe, residential area and not a warehouse district or commercial space. I'm easily accessible via the interstates 95 and 676, am a reasonably short distance from the airport, and am close to multiple routes on public transportation. It is very easy to get to me!

I don't tour because I don't need to tour. Very occasionally, I may offer sessions in a city I'm visiting, but most of the time when I travel it's for pleasure so I tend to be greedy with my time and want to see friends and explore the city. If I do decide to tour, it will be announced in three places: email list, blog, and schedule page. You can subscribe to the former two to receive a message when I make an accouncement.

If you don't want to wait for this thing that may never happen, then consider coming to me. I've had people visit from various parts of the country and overseas. People have flown, taken the train or bus, and driven. Unless you're unable to finance it, consider one of these methods. It will be an adventure!

As with everyone else, please begin by following the instructions on my Contact page, as I ask for all people who would like to session with me. Once you complete the first step and are granted access to the request form, please complete it and I will contact you about whether or not I'm interested in discussing a session with you. If I am, I will ask you to send a consultation fee and set up a time to speak. My number is a U.S. number, so if you're not located in the U.S., be prepared to pay any associated costs for the call. Also, please keep in mind differences in time zone when asking to schedule a consultation. My preference is to speak between 3pm and11pm EST, but can make arrangements for sincere clients when needed.

Absolutely. However, you must have references, as I'm unable to vet people to live outside of the U.S. (The details about what is needed are on my Protocol page.) If you do not have references I will be unable to see you for an in-person session in my dungeon.

I'm a relatively short drive from the airport but I would recommend that you have at least a 3.5-hour layover for a 60-minute session (add a half-hour to your layover for each half-hour of session time, and an additional 15-30 minutes if you will be travelling during rush hour) to ensure that you're not rushed and don't miss your connection. Allow more time if you have bags or additional security requirements.

For those flying into Philly wondering if you can have a taxi bring you directly here for a session: yes, you can absolutely do that. Same if you're flying out of Philly and would like to have a scene with me before you depart.

Make sure you prepare ahead of time as I do not take same-day requests nor do I make exceptions to vetting procedures.

I recommend that when you make a session request you provide me with your arrival and/or departure times so I can help advise and coordinate the appropriate time with you.

Please understand that my cancellation policy still applies if you are unable to make your appointment with me.

I'm sorry, I don't have any recommendations. Since I live here I've never stayed in a hotel here!

Some people ask me where to stay. Since I don't disclose my location until the day of our session I can't tell you specifics, but I would recommend Center City (downtown). The reason being you're centrally located and there is a lot to do downtown. Staying there allows you a lot of options in terms of eating, activities, and transportation.

After this I sometimes am asked, "But where in Center City??"

Something close to the interstates is probably the best choice. This would be along 95 and/or 676.

Please note: This is neither a confirmation or denial that I am located downtown. It's only a recommendation that allows you to most flexibility and options.

It is but asking me to be available to see you usually requires adjustments to various aspects of my life. Because of this tribute it doubled.

If you're a regular of mine and once in a while have a special need to start a hour early or end and hour late I may be able to accommodate you. Please ask when making your appointment, but please don't make it a regular request and don't expect I will say yes.

I do not respond to requests for professional sessions anywhere than those initiated through the request form on my website. If you are interested in a session, go to my Contact page and follow the instructions. It's that simple.

If you have some questions than are not answered on my website, find me on another platform and ask me there. Warning: if it's clear you're not serious and are manipulating me for attention you will be banned.

It's usually for one of the following reasons:

1. You did not provide a valid email address. Please double check that yours is correct before you submit the form. If you haven't heard from me in 4 or 5 days and you're concerned you made a typo, just complete the form again.

2. You were using a VPN when you submitted the form. Sometimes VPNs interfere with the form and I end up either receiving a blank form or not one at all. Turn it off just for the submission and it should go through.

Unless I explicitly told you that couldn't, yes, you can. Depending on how much time has passed, I may need to schedule a new phone consultation and vet you again.

If it's been less than 2 years just send me an email with your preferred date(s), time(s) and session length. (If you no longer have my email, just complete the form on my contact page.)

If it's been more than 2 years send me an email and I'll give you access to the form to request a session.

In some cases I may require you show your sincerity with a gift card to be granted access to the form to request a new session.

If you have forgotten where I'm located, please let me know via email. If you think you remember, PLEASE DO NOT ASK SOMETHING LIKE, "Are you still at [address]?" INSTEAD ASK, "Are you still at the same location as you were in 2017?"

And, no, you don't have to feel embarrassed or ashamed if it's been a year or 3 or 5. Some people come to me every month and some are once a year and some people only can come when they're in my area, which may be every few years. You are not obligated to any frequency, so please don't feel badly!

Yes. I actually require a phone consultation before I agree to session with you. This call is to get a feel for one another and what you're looking for. It is casual and of a professional nature, not "phone sex" or "therapy". Expect to tribute for the call.

Yes. Speaking to me on the phone before we schedule a session is mandatory. This means it's a requirement. Please stop asking if I can make an exception for you. I won't. It doesn't matter if you have references, more money, no time, no phone, or someone who can't find out what you're doing. These are not my problem. I'm a high-caliber Dominatrix, not a DoorDashDomme. I don't take internet orders. You have to speak to me to play with me.

If you're hearing impaired, please have a phone, device, and/or interpreter that will allow us to communicate.

I provide wonderful consultations for every new client that requests a session. They are conducted via phone and are mandatory.

Consultations with new clients are paid. I used to offer them for free but quickly learned that people would shamelessly take advantage of my generosity, pretending to be interested in a session so they can talk about what gets them aroused, showing no respect for me in the process. Payment for the call is expected when we set up a time to speak. I do not put you on my calendar until the call is paid for.

The cost of this call depends on various factors. As a result, I do not charge a flat rate and thus cannot tell you exactly how much it will cost, but it will likely range between $50-$150. I can tell you is that (1) I am very good at estimating how long I need to speak with you, and (2) it will be worth however much you pay. Feedback on my consultations is overwhelmingly positive with many expressing that even if we did not session they felt our conversation was truly valuable to them.

Important to know is that the consultation is not a promise that a session will occur. After speaking, we both must decide if we'd like to go forward. Please note that if you or I decide for any reason that we are not interested in a session, the consultation fee is not refundable.

If you are worried that I would pretend to be interested in a session so I can swindle money from you, you can release that worry. That is beneath me.

While I find a phone call sufficient before I play with someone in-person, I understand that some people may prefer to meet and talk to me first. If you would rather have coffee or a meal first, you can schedule social time with me. This almost like a session without play. Please visit my Session and Tribute pages for more info and initiate your request on my Contact page.

Is there a chance you could meet me at an event? Sure. Just don't expect I will be open to hanging out and having a conversation with you. If attending for personal reasons I'm there to enjoy myself.

Theoretically, as far as you want. However, I don't recommend that.

If you have never sessioned with me before I don't recommend more than 2 months in advance. This is to save you money on consultation calls and deposits which expire after 60 days. The exception is if you're not local and you'll be traveling to my area more than 2 months in advance and want to reserve a date.

For example: You're coming from London and will be in Philly over the weekend of some date 4 months from now. You know you will only have that Saturday between 2 and 6pm to session. You would like to reserve that day so that it doesn't get booked by the time you visit.

First, go to my Contact page and follow the directions. When you are granted access to the session request form, complete it, and wait for my reply. If I tell you that sounds like a scene I'd like to have with you I will then request a 10% reservation fee to reserve your chosen date. This can be applied to the session deposit and is not an additional cost.

Then, about a month before your reserved date we'll set up a phone consultation to discuss the session. I will then ask for the rest of the deposit for the session and whatever is needed to vet you (references will be required for people outside the US, please check my protocol page for more details). Once that is completed you are confirmed.

If you have sessioned with me before you can reserve any date with me with the understanding that something may come up in my schedule and I may need to change it. If It's been over 2 years since I've seen you I may ask for a deposit.

I sure do.

Deposits are an industry standard at this point. Fewer and fewer professional Dommes will book with a new client without asking for one. This isn't to cause grief it's to lessen it.

Preparing for your session can be a lengthy process. If you ask me to reserve time for you and it takes me 5 hours to prepare for that time, I'm will be out whatever money, resources, and time I've invested in that preparation if you decide you don't feel like showing up. It's not sustainable or wise to squander one's finite resources -- and so I don't do it.

To ensure that you are as serious as I am, I require a 50% deposit of the total tribute for your first session. Typically, any subsequent scenes do not require any deposit. Only if it's a scene which requires special planning or materials.

Any deposit you pay will go toward your tribute; it is not an additional cost.

If circumstances are such that you have made a deposit before we have confirmed a date I will hold it for 60 days for you to do that, unless an exception is made.

If you're not ready to pay a deposit for the privilege of being with me then come back when you are.

The first session usually has the most up-front cost. This is because you are new and some familiarity and trust needs to be established.

The total cost depends on various factors, such as the type and length of scene you're looking for.

The basic breakdown:

1. Application donation. I require a gift card be sent to be given access to the form to initiate your request. This eliminates the headache of people who play games with my form. This is a one-time request to show me you are sincere. The amount is not important. Send whatever you'd like. If your session request leads to a consultation I will apply 100% of your gift to the cost of the call. (I don't refund for excess, however.)

2. Consultation. This cost varies depending on how much time we will need. Existing clients are usually offered free or discounted updates when updating their interest, limit, and/or health profile. See question "How do consultations work?" for more info.

3. Deposit. All new clients must pay 50% on their first session to show me you're as serious about this as I am. It is applied to the tribute and is not an extra expense.

4. Session. Tribute details are here.

Tributes for coaching, a consultation, or a deposit can be sent electronically or via mail.

If sending by mail, I accept appropriately-concealed cash or a money order. I do not accept checks or gift cards*.

Please keep in mind that if you will be sending it by mail that you will need to allow sufficient time for me to receive it before a consultation or session will occur. The deadline is the business day PRIOR to our scheduled appointment. For example, if we have an appointment scheduled for Monday afternoon, I must receive it by Friday. If it does not arrive the day prior, we will need to reschedule our session. There will be no exceptions to this rule.

Specific instructions will be provided at the time when the tribute is due.

*If you send a gift card hoping I will accept it as payment it will be considered a gift.

Though I want to work with you, please understand that ultimately your limitations are yours to figure out.

If you want to send it electronically, you may be able to send payment using a pre-paid Visa. You can buy these at many stores. Make sure the card says that it can be used for online transactions/purchases. I cannot promise this method always works. I just know that it has for some people and that the cards said they could be used online.

If that doesn't work or you prefer not to do that, you can easily mail payments to me. I highly recommend a money order. You can send cash but I am not responsible if I do not receive it. If you insist, ask me about my recommended way to send cash.

NOTE: You must plan ahead enough so that I will receive it at least one business day prior to our session. For example, if we have a session planned for Monday, I must receive it no later than Friday. THERE ARE NO EXCEPTIONS TO THIS.

While I sometimes accept gift cards for consultations as a courtesy, please do not expect it. For deposits, I do not accept them. I cannot pay my mortgage with gift cards.

First, know that for what I offer -- my skills and creativity, my equipment and private dungeon, my years of experience, my testimonials, my professional reputation, and the risks and responsibilities I take on to do this work -- my tribute is VERY reasonable. Look around and you'll see. Still, I understand that not everyone can afford the services of a professional Dominatrix. I'm aware and sensitive about the way that having experiences on my level becomes relegated to a particular class. Because of this I'm willing to consider a reduced tribute for a professional-quality good and/or service in exchange.

If you wish to barter your skills, it won't be a free ride. I have worked hard to get where I am in life. I don't give away my talents for pocket lint. You will be expected to cover some costs. Only the session itself may be bartered. Here is how it works:

1. Follow the instructions on my Contact page and send a donation in the form of a gift card. This shows me you are serious about this.

2. Once I receive it you will be granted access to a page in which you can make a quid pro quo proposal. Indicate specifically what you would like to offer and for how much session time you'd like to exchange it for.

3. If I'm willing to discuss this further will you I will give you access to session request form.

4. You will still be required to pay for a consultation. The only exception is that you can offer something valuable to me that does not need to be redeemed in person.

Please note: I do not barter for amateur-level work, such as massages, housework, or home improvement. Only if you actually do those things professionally would I consider that a fair trade. Please be prepared to provide references.

When you arrive, we'll talk briefly before we begin. The session itself will depend on what we've agreed to do and for long we've agreed to do it. Time is allotted for any needed aftercare once we have finished.

No and no. Sessions don't have to involve heavy pain nor do they have to be scary. However, I'm not energized by sessions which are purely sensual. That's not my style as a Dominatrix and I reserve that style of play for my private life. If you're not interested in even a mild level of discomfort (physically or emotionally), I'm likely not a good match for you.

Your physical and mental well-being are of the utmost importance to me. I realize that agreeing to session with someone you've never met can feel frightening and intimidating.

Everything we do is negotiated and consensual, and with awareness of the models of Safe, Sane, and Consensual (SSC), Risk Aware Consensual Kink (RACK), Personal Responsibility Informed Consensual Kink (PRICK), and Committed Compassionate Consent (CCC). My approach is strongly rooted in the harm reduction philosophy and that all participating individuals are able to rescind consent at any time.

If a medical emergency should occur during our session, I am certified in CPR and first aid by the American Red Cross. I know the location of the nearest hospital and crisis center. If you are alert, I ask your consent before any assistance is offered. If you are unconscious, I use my training and judgment for the best course of action. Any conversations with staff members will be had with a commitment to maintain our privacy as much as possible.

Unless you have consented to additional parties, you will see only me.

Yes. If you enjoy dressing en femme (aka "feminization") and I don't happen to have your size or other preference you're welcome to bring it. If you have a particular toy or piece of gear you enjoy using, I may be willing to use it. Please just mention what you'd like to incorporate in a session when you fill out the form on my Contact page and I'll let you know if I'm comfortable using it. Some things may be hard limits for me.

It is not required but it is good etiquette -- especially if I have provided an excellent experience or have done you a favor. This is similar in other service industries, luxury or not.

If you'd like to send or bring one, I ask that you please follow the suggestions on my Offerings page. You can easily buy something from one of my Amazon lists before or after our session and it will automatically be sent to me, or send you can have it sent to yourself and bring it with you. If you don't want an electronic transaction you can buy a gift card in a store to cover whatever you have in mind, wishlist or otherwise, and give it to me when you come. This requires only a little planning ahead but it really delights me.

If you want to pick something up:

* La Croix sparkling water. My preferred flavors are here. That's right: water is a great gift for me because I drink it all the time.

* I love beer. Import and microbrewed are of particular interest. Lagers, pilsners, ales, and wheat beers are best. No super hoppy beers or bocks, please.

* Vegan chocolate and desserts are a favorite. Non-GMO is strongly preferred. Organic is the best.

* A gift card. Etsy, eBay, and Visa are my preferences. Amazon is OK, too.

Please do not bring:

* Things that come from dead animals, such as leather, fur, or implements that are made with things like sinew. There is only one exception I make to this: vintage used leather shoes. I love shoes from different time periods and they are almost always made from leather. If you found a pair in my size (9) that you think I'd love, please check with me first.

* Flowers and plants

* Random things you think I may like. In the past people have brought BDSM gear, lingerie, clothes, sexy shoes, etc (not from my lists) and they almost never work out. You're almost guaranteed to completely waste your money this way because it will end up re-gifted, donated to charity, or thrown away. I assume that's not what you want to happen when you buy a gift -- and neither do I.

I'm pretty practical when it comes to gifts in that I want it to be something I can use. I'm not impressed with giving a gift for a the sake of giving a gift. So, please save your money instead of just guessing or making an impulse purchase because you don't want to come empty handed. I'd honestly rather you put a $10 tip in with my tribute than buy a cheap bottle of wine that I won't drink. At least I can put that $10 toward something useful!

Please ensure all gifts are sealed. I do not accept open containers. Tips can be in any amount you feel comfortable giving.

Yes, I do. Please see the Accommodations section of my Protocol page for more information.

Drugs are NEVER permissible (this includes poppers), but if you wish to have ONE alcoholic drink prior to our session, that's fine, unless one drink will impair you, then do not drink at all. I will not session with you if you appear intoxicated or smell strongly of alcohol because it is a risk for both you AND me, and I do not consent to this risk.

Also: DO NOT drink and drive. If you will be driving and would like a drink, I'd rather you bring it and have it when you arrive. There are also bars within walking distance of my location. This is NOT a recommendation to drink. If you use to heighten pleasure or to assuage your nerves, please talk to me about other, safer options.

This has nothing to do with how I feel about these things. It has to do with the physiological, psychological, and legal issues that arise when engaging in play when someone is impaired.

I'm not currently working with any other professionals, but am open to it.

If you are interested in a double, triple, or group session that includes me, please know that I'm only willing to consider other established professionals with great skills, reputations, and professionalism.

To inquire, please include the name and website of the professional(s) in your application and I will let you know if it's possible to arrange.

If we negotiate something to occur, it will occur.

I do not engage in bait and switch tactics.

I used to be a Smoker. I quit in 2011. I only smoke on occasion for fetish play in sessions. If you absolutely do not want it included to add it to your limits. If you're worried I smell like a smoker or have smoker's breath, I don't; nor does Temenos smell like smoke. I use only clove or herbal type cigarettes which smell more like incense.

Yes. I have cats. While they're not allowed to hang out in my Temenos during sessions, they occasionally visit at other times. If you're allergic, please let me know in advance so I can try to accommodate your needs.

Yes! If you are allergic to latex, please let me know in your application.

Yes! In my practice, I follow a Consensual Cruelty ethic. Everything in my dungeon is either faux leather, faux suede, rubber, vinyl, or other non-animal-sourced material.

Though Temenos is not accessible, my mind is. I'm happy -- and determined -- to help figure out how to make a session work for you if you have mobility issues. Simply indicate your needs on the session request form and I'll do everything I can to come up with a solution.

I'm a former sexual health educator, so I have knowledge about how STIs and other pathogens are transmitted and rendered inactive. I use different methods depending on which potential pathogen is in question.

When cleaning toys, accessories, furniture, etc, the method I use depends on the material. Silicone and stainless steel are sterilized, I disinfect and use barriers on toys that are porous, rope and leatherette is laundered, and I continuously use new sanitary protection, such as gloves and pads, during my scenes.

The disinfectants I use are the types used in hospital settings. They kill a wide range of things like Hepatitis B and C (HBV/HCV), Herpes Simplex 1 and 2 (HSV1/HSV2), human immunodeficiency virus (HIV), prominent influenza strains, norovirus, SARS, staph, salmonella, e. coli, trichophyton mentagrophytes, etc. For pathogens not covered by disinfectants, I use various methods best suited for the type of pathogen it is.

Although I use universal precautions, please don't take this to mean you should not disclose any infections or health conditions, or participate in sessions when you believe you have been exposed to something. I don't want to become infected or increase the chance of spreading it to another person. I treat your health the way I'd want to mine to be treated and I ask you to do the same to me.

Please see my Protocol page for details on those subjects.

Hard limits, no. Do not ask. Sometimes I will with other things. However, expect to pay for the privilege.

"Cold feet" stems from fear. This fear is very likely to be something you were aware was there before the day our of scene. Whether it's about meeting me, what the session will be like, emotions you will feel, if you will "mess up" and make a "fool" out of yourself, etc. If you're feeling any of this, just say so. You don't need to feel embarrassed to have or express these feelings. They're normal and many people feel them.

No.