L 'Autel De La Femme
Do you have an inner femme that wants to get out?
You are invited to my L'Autel De La Femme!
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I love helping men, butches, and non-binary folx discover and express their inner femme. Being femme does not mean you want to be a woman or even that you want to assume a female persona while doing so. Male-identified people can be femme, too.
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My style is better suited for those who wish to be beautiful, elegant, sexy, and/or slutty rather than those who wish to perform a mockery of the femme principle.
I discuss my philosophy and approach in more depth here.
What is
"L'Autel De La Femme"?
L'Autel De La Femme translates to "The Woman's Altar". It is my signature approach to what people typically call "feminization" and is different than is traditionally practiced in BDSM. Within FemDom, I have pioneered the idea of a truly FemDom-centered philosophy in that "feminization" is never emasculating or humiliating but is honored, celebrated, and a practice by which your consciousness can evolve. This can be by way of erotic release, a form of Empathy Training, and/or a spiritual practice to integrate the fragmented Femme and increase one's sense of authentic power and self-love.
What is "femme" and how does that differ from "feminization"?
I use different language than others. I don't care for the term "feminization". It sounds robotic and unsexy. I also don't like the antiquated "crossdressing". I prefer "femme" because not only does it have less misogynistic and gender essentialist origins, it sounds more sexy and elegant!
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"Femme" is the French word for "woman" (pronounced "FAHM"). When I say "femme" or "en femme" (translation: "as a woman"), I'm referring to the more broadly understood cultural meaning of femme, and its complement butch, which originated in the queer community. These constructs were created to respect gender "variance". Unlike heteronormative culture, these terms were created to acknowledge that people can have particular bodies, "sex" identification, and also have a so-called “non-congruent” gender identities and presentations. This means you can have a penis, identify as male, and be “femme”. Likewise, you have a vagina, identify as male, and be “femme”. These terms are independent of and don’t inherently say anything about your sexuality. Anyone can be femme, butch, a combination of both, and/or something else. I use femme, as well as the English pronunciation of "FEM", instead of “feminization” to acknowledge this cultural value and separate the activity from its misogynistic associations.
What if I want to be humiliated by being "feminized"?
I'm not the right Domme for you. While I can humiliate you while you're femme, I won't humiliate you for being femme. While I understand this kind of humiliation is erotic for some, it does not have a place in my FemDom practice, where it is instead respected and revered. In my space, when you express your unique femmeness, you will be my treasured girl, slut, whore, toy, or slave, not a joke or something to ridicule. More on this here.
What about sissies?
"Sissies" can be problematic because the concept of a "sissy" is rooted in misogyny. It was created to shame boys and men from expressing not only "feminine" or "female" qualities but anything that demonstrates sensitivity and vulnerability. As a result, sissy play and the humiliation aspect often go hand-in-hand which does not interest me as a FemDom. If you identify as a sissy, you're welcome as long as you understand my sissies are not embodiments of this sexist ideology but reclaiming and celebrating their shamed "femininity" or femme qualities.
​​On My Altar, I have...
WIGS
various colors, lengths, and styles
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MAKEUP
for partial or full face, with foundation in 40 different skin tones, concealers, powders, eyeshadow, blushers, liners, lipsticks
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SILICONE BREASTFORMS
in light, medium, and dark skin tones, ranging from a 140cc to 1800cc
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SILICONE BREASTPLATES
in two skin tones: vanilla and chocolate
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BRAS
pocket style
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CORSETS
fashion style in pink, red, and black satin
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PANTIES
thongs, open crotch, standard in lace, satin, and silky
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GARTER BELTS
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LINGERIE
negligees, teddys, and bodysuits, elegant to slutty
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STOCKINGS
thigh-high and full, nylon and fishnet in various colors
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GLOVES
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PETTICOATS
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SHOES
various pumps and thigh-high boots, sizes women's 9-15
Several pair of pretty, sexy, and slutty
From eyeshadow to liners to lipsticks to foundation in many shades
Boots and pumps ranging in size 9 to 15 (women's)
Breast forms and plates, from tiny tatas to big jugs
For My Maids
FRENCH STYLE, BLACK & WHITE MAID UNIFORM
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HEADPIECE
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COLLAR
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APRON
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SHOES
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Include your chest and waist measurements as well as your shoe size when offering maid service to ensure I have a suitable uniform for you.
Limited
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dresses
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frilly "sissy" clothes (the hyperfeminine and comical style of sissy is not my aesthetic)
Mistress, do you have my size?
I have various bras, corsets, panties, and lingerie for different body sizes. I have items ranging from size medium to 6X (women's), but it's possible I may not have a particular thing in your particular size. Please provide your height, weight, chest, waist, and hip measurements, as well as shoe size, when requesting a femme session so I can confirm this with you.
​If you have particular items you would like to be included in your transformation, such as a new bra and panty set you purchased or a sexy outfit you want to submit to me in, I love when you come show them off for me!
Aching to be femme but not sure what kind of session you'd like?
Check out my Sessions page for options.
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Not sure which is the best option? Send me a message through NiteFlirt to set up a time to talk about planning the perfect session for you.
Some testimonials from those who have expressed their femme with me:
"I had an excellent time with you... Your expertise allowed me to reach sub space and let go... Thank you for helping me...be the slutty girl I wanted to be."
Natasha
"The whole experience was great ... I knew that I belonged there, that I belonged to You! In our session there was nothing fake or superficial, no stereotyped performance. You looked into my soul and took control and made me feel like an elegant, beautiful, and slutty woman without humiliation or degradation. The mood and atmosphere was emotional and intimate! The energy level made me shake with excitement even after I left Your dungeon. Everything pleasurable, positive and good!!! ... It was one of the best experiences I've ever had. ... I'm so glad I contacted you."
denise
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"I feel safe there and that means a lot to me."
samantha
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"I loved our time together. This was surely the best BDSM experience I have ever had. You are erotically intoxicating to me and you are a virtuoso at your art. ...I'm still a little high, feeling contemplative, unworried and at peace. ... I am grateful"
slut michelle
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"Thank you again. I enjoyed myself more than you could know."
andrea
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"Thank You so much for yesterday. It was by far the best session I’ve had with you. I enjoyed how deliberate and un-rushes the whole session was. ... Thoroughly enjoyed everything about the session - it’s the first time I dressed completely femme and for that I’m grateful. ... Almost everything I experienced in the session yesterday was a first and that is only due to your expertise, creativity and skill - as I don’t consider myself a novice. You were fantastic!"
Kaladhar
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"I loved my experience and will be reaching back to you. ... You brought out the real me - and it felt good." Heather
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"i'm still in a state of awe about yesterday. First and foremost, thank You. … Amazingly enough, yesterday was one of the first times i really actually loved myself. i go through a ton of self-frustration because i never quite feel "myself," … It's like walking around always feeling like i just don't fit. Yesterday, i felt like i fit. It was incredible." - mvb
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"Thank you for an evening to remember. Your grace, power, and presence captivated me .... I can't wait to see you again. Dazed and delighted, I remain."
sissy slut andrea
"Mistress, last night's session changed my life. I am still reeling from it. I feel like a totally changed person today. Never in my wildest dreams have I ever imagined being taken like that. Its changed my whole outlook. I know I can't ever go back to the way I was. I can't thank you enough."
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