Protocol

Please familiarize yourself with My protocol before contacting me. It may appear to be a lot of information, but it reads quickly. I am not responsible if you choose not to read it. Thank you.

New or modified protocol is identified with ***

GROUND RULES

 

  • You must be at least 18 years of age.

  • I expect you to address me as Mistress or Ms. Tissa, in the same way I will refer to you in the manner you prefer.

  • Please be polite and respectful at all times. If this is difficult for you, don't contact me. Polite ignorance is forgiven, but if you are rude, demeaning, or act entitled, you will very quickly lose my interest. If you show you cannot behave during our session, I will stop and ask you to leave.

  • I'm here to offer my Domination, not to receive yours. No pushy bottoms or scene directors. I'm not a puppet, but a facilitator and co-collaborator.

  • Do not become intoxicated prior to our session. If you have taken any illegal drug, I will NOT session with you. Alcohol should be limited to ONE drink, unless one drink will impair you, then do not drink at all. Your being intoxicated is a serious risk for both you AND me. I do not consent to this risk. If you use to assuage nerves, please talk to Me about another, safer solution.

  • Please be courteous with your hygiene and grooming. Be freshly showered, wear deodorant, and have a fresh mouth when you arrive. If you'd like to read my guide to preparation, click here.

  • Do not wear any kind of fragrance. It gets all over my gear and can cause me a headache.

  • Do not ask me to remove my clothing, masturbate, or have sex with you. If you do, I will immediately stop the session. You will not be offered a refund.

  • Do not touch me in any way unless I have given you explicit permission. If you do, I take no responsibility for the way in which I may instinctively fuck you up. I will also end the session and you will not be offered a refund.

  • Please do not discuss your personal life. The moment you start telling me about your wife/husband, kids, job, etc. is the moment I have been nonconsensually invited into knowing details about your life which may be uncomfortable for me. Aside from medical conditions, I also don't need to know the details about why your life circumstances prohibit you, just the resulting parameters. All details are your business, not mine, and I'd rather you keep them to yourself.

  • All contact is private and confidential -- whether it be email, phone, or sessions. This goes BOTH ways, and means that I ask you respect my privacy the way I respect yours. So, please, no gossip. Read more here.

  • Sessions occur at my discretion and I reserve the right to refuse to session with anyone who I deem a risk and/or violates the terms of our agreement.

CONTACTING ME

  • Sessions for new clients are initiated by completing the form on my Contact page. I do not accept emails or phone calls  from you if I have not yet seen you. All new inquiries must be sent through My form.

  • Sessions from existing clients can simply be emailed to me. All you have to do is provide the date, time, and length of scene and I will let you know if I'm available. Please include any changes to your interests, limits, health, and medications at that time. If none are indicated I will assume they are the same.

  • Please take your time filling out my session request form. Hurrying through my questions won't help you see me faster, but it is likely to require a longer consultation. A longer consult will cost you more.

  • A consultation about your session is mandatory. This is how we get to know one another and is an essential aspect of how I maximize our time together. I very rarely provide free consultations these days as it's not uncommon for people to feign interest so they can talk about what sexually excites them, so prepare to tribute to show your sincerity. I assure you I will be well-worth your time. Show me you will be worth mine.

  • I'm not available in the AM hours. The only time I make myself available outside my hours is for sincere players in vastly different timezones. If this is not your case, please do not expect any phone calls or replies to your emails during that time.

  • I don't leave voicemail messages. This is to protect both your and my privacy.

  • I cannot send or receive text messages. My business line is not a cell phone and not text-capable.

  • Do not act rude, pushy, or entitled. It really should go without saying, but people actually behave this way. A lack of manners is more shocking to me than any kink you may have. Mutual respect is essential for us to have a good time.

VETTING

  • All new submissives must be vetted according to my standards.. I'm a very security minded person and thus my standards have been carefully created with both my safety and yours in mind.

  • I prefer two references from new clients. They should be from active professionals that you have seen within the last three years. If one of your references knows you well, I'm okay extending the timeframe beyond three years.

  • If you only have one reference, it must be from an active, professional who has enough of a relationship with you to vouch for you. This means it is unlikely I will accept your only reference from someone you've seen only once.

  • If you have old, retired, or no references, we can discuss the options. While I will make an earnest effort to figure something reasonable out, please understand this is an issue of mutual safety and what is satisfactory is ultimately my call.

  • Professional references must be verifiable and trustworthy. Acceptable references are from authentic and reputable professionals with personal websites and who are established and otherwise known in the community. For example, a Domme whose "website" is a social media profile or free advertising and whose email address is "MistressJane1@gmail.com" is not acceptable to Me. ANYONE can put up a free social media profile and ad and start a free email account. If the provider doesn't meet professional criteria, I can't accept them as a professional reference.

  • ALL references WILL BE checked. Please make sure you have your facts straight, such as when you saw them and what name they know you by, so I'm not wasting My time going back and forth trying to figure this out for you. Lying about them isn't a good idea because once I find out you will IMMEDIATELY be banned from any session with Me for LIFE.

  • I HIGHLY recommend you ask a Domme if She'll provide a reference for you before you attempt to use Her as one. Some Dommes do not provide references. Some do not provide references to certain people. Ask Her first to ensure you're prepared and won't be let down.

  • I'm happy to provide a reference for you, but I won't provide one to a Domme who does not provide them Herself. If I have ever requested a reference from a Domme and She refuses to provide one, I will not afford Her a courtesy that She is unwilling to extend to others.

DEPOSITS

  • A deposit is required from everyone with whom I have not yet sessioned. This is applied toward the tribute. Having references does not justify an exemption. Some people with good references still prove to be inconsiderate in some cases.

  • If you do not have adequate references, you must pay a 50% deposit. It will be applied to your tribute just the same.

  • Deposits can be sent electronically or by mail. Instructions will be provided at the time when tribute is due. Be sure to allow adequate time if you're sending by mail. I will not work on any aspect of the session until it is received. Read more details here.

  • Please pay your deposit promptly. Once I schedule time for you, please send it as soon as possible. If the session is for the next day, it must be sent electronically and it is due within the hour. If you do not send it within that time, your spot will be lost.

  • Vetting and reference checks will not occur until AFTER the deposit has been paid. I don't work on our scene until you show me that you are as serious as I am. I respect your time and ask that you respect mine.

  • Deposits, while transferable, are non-refundable*. I allow reschedules but if you cancel same-day or are a no-show, you will forfeit your deposit—and likely the privilege of sessioning with me. See more detail about cancellations below. *Exceptions occur at My discretion.

  • I have the right to request a larger deposit. Some examples of when I might do this: requests for more complicated sessions (e.g. additional parties, outcalls), a history of flakiness, having to do an excessive amount of work to vet you, and sessions which involve My needing to get materials or make special preparations.

  • I reserve the right to rescind offers to apply your consultation fee toward your deposit/tribute. Though rare, it has happened with very flaky and disorganized people who have caused me to do an unusually excessive amount of work to prepare for the session.

SESSIONS

  • I conduct real-time sessions seven days a week, between noon and midnight.. Holidays may or may not be available. Please check my schedule.

  • Requests to session outside of my hours can be arranged but tribute will be doubled for the time that falls out of my availability. For example: a two-hour session starting at 11am will have one hour doubled and one hour at normal tribute ((275 x 2) + 275 = 825)

  • I do not accept same-day requests from new clients. "Same-day" is defined as the 24-hour period before the time you're requesting. Your first scene with me must be scheduled at least 24 hours in advance.

  • Regular clients have the privilege of requesting same-day, However, availability is not guaranteed. Same-day appointments require a minimum 3-hour notice from the time I receive your message and confirm availability. Read more here.

  • Incall sessions are private. You will see no one but Me -- unless I have your consent for additional parties.

  • Outcall sessions are offered on at My discretion and are available only to those who have already established a trusting relationship with Me OR who have excellent, current references. You are responsible for all costs involved. If it's somewhere I'm already going to be, such  as a play party, then you are not. Outcalls at play parties must be paid in-full and in advance.

  • I will not conduct sessions in your home.

  • Arrive precisely at the time your session is scheduled. If our appointment is 2pm, that is the time I'm expecting you. Whatever time you may choose to arrive before our schedule time is a mystery to me, and thus I may not be prepared to greet you, So, if you arrive early, please wait.

  • Late arrivals may result in a reduction of the session time but with no reduction in tribute. Please notify me if you're going to be late.

  • I generally don't take wardrobe requests. I don't like someone telling me how I should dress myself. An exception is for fantasy and fetish sessions involving a type of clothing or scenario, such as latex or a role-play. Another exception is if you buy something for Me from My Wishlist. you may receive the honor of my wearing your gift during our sessions.

CANCELLATIONS

  • The reason for your cancellation is likely to be irrelevant. "Mistress, I'm afraid I won't be able to make it today as a giant rabbit cut my head off with a rather large sword," causes me the same losses as "Mistress, I done forgot."

  • If you have to cancel or reschedule, please provide at least a 24-hour notice for incall and a 48-hour notice for outcall or additional parties. Ample notice allows Me to make adjustments and avoid unnecessary work and expenses.

  • Cancellations occurring more than 24 hours for incall or more than 48 hours for outcall or additional parties are best rescheduled within two months. If this does not happen, you may need to pay for a new consultation. If you don't reschedule within four months you lose your deposit.

  • Cancellations occurring less than 24 hours from our appointment ("same day") but more than 4 hours should be rescheduled within two weeks. If this does not happen, you will lose your deposit. If you didn't pay a deposit, a cancellation fee will be due.

  • Cancellations occurring less than 4 hours from our appointment ("last minute") must be rescheduled within two weeks and you must pay a new deposit. If this does not happen, you must pay half tribute for sessions in my dungeon and full tribute anywhere else.

  • Cancelling a session with ample notice three times in a row will result in either your losing your deposit or you needing to now pay a deposit. In these cases, experience says that without this policy you are very likely to drag Me along for weeks, if not months. This isn't the kind of experience I enjoy.

  • I expect you to take the initiative on rescheduling. Email reminders are a courtesy and not to be expected.

  • Exceptions to rescheduling are only considered for clients who are outside a 3-hour radius of Philadelphia (e.g. above Boston, below DC).

  • If I have to cancel and reschedule and it is less than a 4-hour notice for incall or a 48-hour notice for outcall, I will add additional time onto our rescheduled session commensurate with the length of the session as My apology to you.

  • Please do not put Me in a position where I have to pester you about reschedules or tribute due. It's time I'd rather spend elsewhere. This is the kind of experience I really, really don't enjoy.

  • If you choose not to respect my cancellation protocol, you will not be allowed the privilege of sessioning with me. I respect your time and make a commitment to you when you book, I ask you please extend to me the same courtesy. Thank you.

ACCOMMODATIONS

  • Bathroom and shower facilities are available to all My guests. They are modern and clean. I can provide you with toiletries and clean towels. All you have to do is ask. (Please note that this may cut into your session time if you take longer or I have someone scheduled immediately after you.)

  • If you'd like to take a shower when you arrive or before you leave, it's helpful if you let Me know in advance of your visit so I can be absolutely sure it's ready for you.

  • Please be courteous when using my bathrooms. Please don't linger or leave a mess. I don't want to clean up a wet floor or a soap spill in what is a courtesy to begin with. I appreciate your conscientiousness as my guest.

  • When our session is finished, please do not expect to hang out for a while afterward. While I always make time for aftercare, if needed, and welcome a brief exchange about the session, any lengthy discussion either needs to be negotiated in advance so I allot time for it or it needs to take place at another time. I may have another client after you and that can affect My time to prepare for them.

CONFIDENTIALITY

  • I take privacy very seriously and take several measures to secure it. I do not leave voicemail messages, all correspondence is password protected and only accessed by me, and I do not take photos, video, or refer to you on public sites or in forums without your explicit permission. In other words: What happens with me, stays with me...unless you say otherwise.

  • I do not provide references unless you specifically release me to do so. This ensures you the highest level of privacy. You must provide a written release for each person for whom you wish me to provide a reference. If I am contacted by anyone asking for one without first having heard from you, I will be unable to answer.

  • There are three instances in which I will break confidentiality: 1. If you pose a threat to yourself, 2. If you post a threat to someone else, or 3. In some legal cases. These are standard rules in various professions in which confidentiality is practiced.

  • I ask that you respect my privacy as I will respect yours. I do not discuss identifying details about you (i.e. your name, phone number, etc) or our session(s) without your consent. I expect you to extend the same courtesy to me as I do to you. Please read more about this here.

* This protocol does not apply to coaching clients.

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