Please note: Coaching is NOT BDSM, fetish, or fantasy play. It is guidance and mental health services.

There will be no power exchange, physical activities, or erotic role plays. I am not your Dominatrix and you are not my submissive. If you are looking for that, you want a BDSM session, which you can initiate on the Contact page.

Are you having a tough time figuring out what is going on in your life and why? Or maybe you have some idea but aren’t sure how to begin to change it? Have you tried traditional therapy but felt misunderstood, judged, or let down? Or do you feel trapped or hopeless and wish things were different? I might be just the person who can help.

My primary areas of expertise are identity, sex, intimacy, and relationships. Some areas of support:

  • Understanding your “kinky” self

  • Introducing kink to a lover, partner, or spouse

  • Developing and nurturing intimate relationships

  • Intimacy problems and solutions

  • How to identify and negotiate your needs

  • Self-awareness, development, and actualization

  • Feelings of sexual inferiority

  • How to have better sex

  • Understanding and exploring gender and/or sexual identity and expression

  • Gender transition

 

If you are having difficulty with these or other related issues, I may be able to help you. I have a Bachelor's in Psychology and completed work toward a Master's in Clinical Psychology where I was training to be a psychotherapist. Professionally, I have experience as a counselor and coach, consultant, educator, and advocate and have helped others in these areas. I also have extensive experience with many of these issues on a personal level.

I also have competence and experience working with people with various gender identities and presentations, sexual orientations, ethnicities and colors, religions and spiritualities, vocations, income levels, health conditions, and life experiences.

My theoretical orientation is eclectic, but grounded in a transpersonal ethic. In my work with you, I may employ different perspectives, but primarily use a blend of psychoanalytic, psychodynamic, cognitive-behavioral, emotionally-focused, narrative, collaborative, and solution-focused frameworks. I also welcome incorporating a spiritual/religious component that is reflective of your beliefs, if that is important to you.

My style is a results-driven blend of information gathering, analysis and coaching. I can help you discover what may be hidden to you and conceive of a plan to make the change in your life you want to make, remembering that change is incremental.

I provide both individual and couples counsel and coaching to people of any sex, gender, sexual orientation, ethnicity, color, nationality, (dis)ability, and age over 18. I can offer support to you for one session or several.

If you are interested in speaking with me, please fill out the form below. If you are someone I believe I can help, I will contact you to schedule a call. If I don’t believe I can help you, I will attempt to refer you to someone who can.

When you need to talk and are ready for change, I’m here.

 

 

Coaching sessions are currently available by appointment via phone. Appointments are pre-paid and 45 minutes in length.

All submissions are confidential.  Please allow 48 hours for a response.

Support Concepts:

  • Identity: confusion, embarrassment, shame, guilt, exploration, formation, integration, actualization

  • Sexuality: confusion, embarrassment, shame, guilt, exploration, expression, formation, integration

  • Sex: embarrassment, shame, feelings of inadequacy, quality, kink/BDSM, negotiation, exploration, integration, fulfillment

  • Intimacy: confusion, lack of, barriers, quality, deepening

  • Relationships: forming, releasing, barriers, quality, communication, kinky (D/s, M/s), fulfillment

"I really appreciate your intelligence, experience, compassion and ethics. ... Your insight and guidance has given me some perspective on several issues and put my mind to rest on some things I that had worried about. ... I’ve felt a little kinder to myself in general and, though I still have much to learn, you’ve helped me to broaden my understanding regarding kink and power exchange. I’ve been feeling much more comfortable and less conflicted with my relationship to BDSM. Certainly, I’ve always felt accepted and not judged by you. Thank you for all of that."

— Mark

Cost:

Individual: $90 / 45-minute phone session

Couples: $120 / 45-minute phone session

I'm sorry but I'm unable to accept insurance.