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Looking to expand your erotic horizons?

Add some fun and hot tools to your sexual repertoire?

Refine your communication?

Improve your problem solving?

Deepen your intimacy?

Strengthen your bond?

As a highly-respected and top-rated professional Dominatrix and lifestyle Dominant with over 15 years of combined personal and professional experience in BDSM / kink; a BA in Psychology and work toward an MA in Clinical Psychology; and countless, varied opportunities to test and implement what I've learned, the knowledge and wisdom I've attained from this makes me a top choice for couples wanting to enhance their partnership, build something mutually satisfying, and grow together.

What makes me distinguishable is not only my deep understanding of how to conceptualize, develop, and integrate key components that make a successful relationship, but how to effectively act as a catalyst to their realization while simultaneously upholding clear boundaries*.

I enthusiastically welcome couples of any experience level (including those where one has more experience than the other), sex, gender, sexual orientation (including  gay men, who I find especially hot to play with), ethnicity, color, religion, inter/ability, body type, and legal age. This isn't a gimmick, it's foundational to my approach.


I offer support either through a BDSM, Kink, and Fantasy session in-person or through Couples Relationship Coaching by phone.


I can help with the introduction and exploration of kink into your relationship or a BDSM, Fetish, Fantasy session that can include a variety of activities and within different dynamics. I categorize them as**:

D/ss or M/ss: with you both as my submissives or slaves

Dd/s: where I am the lead Dominant, one is secondary Dom, and the other is submissive

DD/s: where the Dominant of your relationship and I co-Dom the submissive.

For more info about what activities I offer (and don't), please check out my sessions, interests, and limits pages.


To initiate a couples BDSM session with me in-person, please follow the instructions on my Contact page.




I offer intelligent, thorough, and engaging coaching for:


  • Incorporating BDSM / kink into your relationship

  • Helping one feel more comfortable assuming a Dominant role and effectively dominating your partner

  • Helping one feel more comfortable assuming a submissive role and effectively submitting to your partner

  • Switching with one another 

  • How to negotiate your needs and desires with one another

  • Working with and around challenges (physical, emotional, spiritual)

  • Creating play that makes sense and is exciting and fulfilling for your relationship desires and goals

  • Developing communication skills

  • Improving problem solving

  • Creating and deepening intimacy

For more information and to schedule a call with me, please follow the instructions on my Coaching page.

* Women who feel insecure about playing or being coached by another woman, click here.

** The written form of these dynamics -- D/ss, M/ss, Dd/s, and DD/s -- are something I conceptualized. If you and your partner(s) go looking in for more info about them online or in a book, you won't find anything. If you'd like more info, book a call!

"You backing off a little from your normal “playstyle” and allowing us to enjoy our “playstyle” to me is the mark of a professional, which in this industry, in case you don’t know, is a little different. ... the best thing you gave us was your ability to enable Barbara to feel as though she was as integral to the session as you were. You did this without diminishing your power or authority.  Well done … You two, for me, were like the “Dream Team”. And you made it happen."

— Gene and Barbara


Mistress Tissa Philadelphia Dominatrix
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